Jan 4, 2013

Capital-R Resolutions

This is what my to do lists look like. Except this one doesn't have anything on it because the year is just starting. It's probably symbolic.

I’ve said it before: I am not big on Resolutions.

I don’t like capital-R-Resolutions because I spend so much of my time making up everyday resolutions (the small ones like eat better, exercise, get enough sleep) that I can’t keep that the idea of making and breaking a Big, Important Resolution is frightening.

I am in a constant state of attempted self-improvement. Somewhere in a description of my particular Myers-Briggs* profile, it says that INFJs “constantly define and re-define the priorities in their lives” and “put a lot of energy into finding the best system for getting things done.” Imagine, if you will, trying to find the best system for accomplishing a constantly changing set of priorities. It’s not just trying to hit a moving target, it’s trying to design a prettier target while wearing roller-skates.

Because I know that I have this weakness for trying to be better, I usually avoid making big goals. The small ones take up enough brainspace, thank you very much. For the last two years, my Big Goals and Capital-R Resolutions have been very general: Have More Adventures, Be Less Afraid, Read More Books. These are very good resolutions; I’ve had two very good years. I’ve traveled on my own and with others. I’ve met and loved lots of new people and I’ve learned that sometimes friendships need to end. I’ve learned how to read again, and I’ve had so many good conversations.

Like I said: these are good. Maybe I needed two years of these inward, almost selfish goals so that could I learn how to belong to myself. Now those goals hardened into character traits and I need to move forward.

So, I’d like to announce that 2013 is The Year of Getting Stuff Done. (I don’t mean that this is a year dedicated to the David Allen book. Although, I imagine that might help.)

What does this mean, exactly? This means I’m going to do what I say I will do. I will answer emails and finish blog posts. I will get enough sleep to be able to function as a real human. I will eat like a grown up. I will stop confusing myself with changing goals and shifting priorities and I will focus on what I really need and want. I will do the things I must do, even if they are in the morning and even if that morning is on a weekend.

I know. This is some serious shoot.

OH. I almost forgot. I’m also gonna get a cat. It’s time. That means either have to talk my landlords into letting me have one or move out of my cute little apartment. I know. That means I want a cat more than I want to stay in the apartment I’ve spent the last two years cutifying. I told you this was serious.

In sum, this year I will get:

1) stuff done.

2) a cat.

This is going to be a busy year.

*I’ve spent a lot of time this year thinking about Myers-Briggs profiles. It’s done quite a bit in helping me understand myself and other people. If you don’t know your type, I highly recommend figuring that out. Here’s a link to a test, but I haven’t taken this particular one and can’t vouch for the results.




  • I do think it helps to write down the things you want to get done. It keeps them in front of you and I think encourages you when you can mark it off your list. The cat will increase your list of stuff you have to do!!

  • I say yes to both goals! Because I need to live vicariously through your cat. (There aren’t enough cats on the internet.) And also because I like the image of goals hardening into character traits, and because the older I get the more I realize that if I don’t know who I am, all the things I try to make of myself can’t stick.

    Let’s cat it and stuff it up in 2013.*

    *Sharone, coiner of felicitous phrases since ever.

  • I’m an INFJ too. πŸ™‚ It’s the best type, don’t you think? Besides all the others. And yes, David Allen could help, although it does take a lot of drive to keep up with his system. I’ve needed other starting points, ones that help me stop procrastinating. The Now Habit by Neil Fiore has been helpful, and Timothy Pychyl seems good too (http://www.procrastinatorsdigest.com/).

    • Not that you need those! But, you know, in case anybody reads that who does. πŸ™‚

    • It *is* the best type. πŸ™‚

      Thanks! I’ll take a look at these books.

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